Enough was enough


School Instantly Regrets Expelling Teen For Her Outfit When They Find Out Who Dad Is

When Tony Alarcon heard the phone ringing in the middle of the day, he initially thought nothing of it. Calls from telemarketers or robocalls tend to happen around this time. After answering the call, he was shocked to hear the voice of the principal of his daughter’s school.

It’s not very common when the principal calls home. Tony had no clue what he was about to hear from the principal. Was there an emergency? Were his children safe? When he found out what the real reason was for being called in he couldn’t believe his ears. He had to do something about it.

An Ordinary Day

Nothing was out of the ordinary on that hot summer’s day when Tony Alarcon dropped his daughter, Demetra, off at school. It was 90 degrees out, which is not uncommon weather for Southern California.

Demetra chose to wear an outfit that would keep her comfortable for the long day at school. Students know to wear something that will keep them cool throughout the day during the summer months. What neither Tony nor Demetra knew was that this simple attempt to keep cool would spiral into a long battle over the appropriateness of the outfit.

No School Uniform Policy

Not unlike many California schools, Raymond J. Fisher located in Los Gatos, CA is a middle-school that has no specific school uniform requirement. The students are allowed to wear everyday clothes to school.

This gives students the ability to express their creativity and individuality as well as build confidence because they take pride in their style. However, to ensure students don’t go overboard, they do have some rules regarding what they’re allowed to wear and what they’re not. These rules are explained to students in the Student Handbook.

These handbooks are commonly handed out to middle-school students across California during orientation the summer before their first year of middle school starts. Often, these rules are occasionally reiterated verbally by teachers and over the daily announcements. This is usually done in the spring and summer months to remind students that the dress code is still in effect even if the weather has changed.

Protective Dad

As a successful real estate agent and investment banker, Tony Alarcon is used to fighting for what is right. He doesn’t take injustice lying down but instead confronts it head-on. This is especially the case when it comes to protecting his daughter Demetra.

After hearing about Demetra’s dress code violation, he did not take it lightly. As a protective dad, he would have surely noticed if the outfit was inappropriate for a middle school student to wear.

Yet, when Demetra walked out of the door and sat in his car that morning, he saw nothing wrong with the outfit. Was his daughter being unfairly singled out or was there validity to the school’s claims? Tony believed that the truth was the former. So he set out on a journey to get to the bottom of the school’s claims that the outfit was indecent for the school environment.

The Beginning Of A Huge Clash

Demetra could not believe all the fuss that her blue romper was causing. She had not done anything wrong. All she had done was choose an outfit that would be comfortable and keep her cool on a sweltering hot day in California.

It is not uncommon for summer days in Southern California to reach into the 80s or 90s in temperature. Demetra just wanted to ensure that she could comfortably enjoy her day at school as she always did.

Unfortunately, that one small decision led to a much bigger battle taking place. If she had known all that would transpire beforehand then she would have never chosen to wear that particular outfit on the fateful day. It was too late now and the damage was already done. She never expected that her choice would result in a clash between her father and the school.

Why All The Fuss?

Demetra’s choice of outfit became the topic of conversation overnight. And soon enough the media got involved and there was a public outcry. The situation had completely spiraled out of control. Demetra, nor Tony, ever expected for the situation to get this big and out of control.

After the pictures of the blue romper made its rounds on the media, many people seemed to be just as confused as the Alarcons were. How was her outfit any different from what other girls her age wore to school?

An Unforeseen Outcome

Demetra didn’t expect that there would be yet another outcome over her outfit. It was even worse than what she’d expected though. She never wished to attract attention from the media or the public at large. The public felt sympathetic towards Demetra. Who could blame her for wearing a comfortable romper on such a hot day in Los Gatos?

They had lived in California and they know just how hot it gets. On top of that, Demetra might have to be outside for some portions of the day like lunch or during P.E. classes.

Unnecessary Humiliation

On that hot day, Demetra was in her first period of the day when the teacher decided to call her out in front of the whole class. He was the one to point out that her romper was not appropriate attire for school. This was very embarrassing for Demetra. The teacher could have at least pulled her aside and addressed the outfit if he thought it was inappropriate.

Instead, he brought it up in a way that ensured that students who may not have even given a second thought to her outfit were now fully aware of it.

The Principal Gets Involved

Adding insult to injury, the teacher decided that she needed to go to the principal’s office. Going to the principal’s office is the biggest amount of trouble that a student could get in. The principal’s involvement upped the ante for Demetra. Demetra was now being given this punishment for something she never intended to cause trouble.

Upon taking one glance at Demetra, the principal called her dad and explained that there had been a situation involving his daughter. That was a call he would later regret.

A Choice Had To Be Made

The principal explained to Tony that Demetra’s outfit was inappropriate and he had a choice to make. He could either bring her a change of clothes or fetch her from school immediately. He was shocked to be receiving this call. The protocol for many other Southern California schools is to give a warning for the first dress code violation.

If the violation is particularly bad, they might be sent to borrow a change of clothes, usually a pair of sweatpants and a T-shirt. Going to the principal’s office is usually only a last resort

Going Along At First

Tony initially decided to go along with the principal’s requests. He opted to bring Demetra a change of clothes as opposed to picking her up and making her miss the entire day of school over an outfit. As a young girl, her education was of utmost importance and no outfit should compromise it.

So after receiving the call, he went through her drawers and found what he thought was appropriate. It was a pair of denim shorts and a plain, pink tank top. An outfit that Tony believed was both comfortable and appropriate as school attire.

What Exactly Was The Problem?

Tony was fuming at this point. One of the main problems is that the administration had never explained exactly what was wrong with either outfit to neither Demetra, not Tony. So Tony asked the school’s administrator to explain what the problem was with the new outfit.

He even made Demetra bend down to show them how her shorts covered her adequately. The shorts covered her adequately but there was still a problem with them in the administrator’s eyes. Tony knew that he had to get to the bottom of this.

Protecting His Daughter At All Costs

He just knew that there was more to the story than what they were telling him. He wouldn’t stop until they told him the truth. He would not stand for Demetra being embarrassed and unfairly punished for this. He wanted to get to the bottom of this order so Demetra could put it behind her and ultimately get back to class.

Every moment spent in the office was a moment of her missing class. He wanted it completely explained why they singled Demetra out. Tony had his suspicions but thought that it couldn’t possibly be.

An Answer He Wasn’t Satisfied With

The explanation was that the dress code violation was more about length than modesty. The administrator further explained that the romper and the denim shorts that Demetra wore didn’t pass their “fingertip test.” The fingertip test is when a student stands up completely straight and puts their straightened arms at their sides as naturally as they can.

The fabric of the shorts must be equal to or longer than the student’s fingertips. This is a common test a middle schools in Southern California. But Tony sensed that it wasn’t the real reason.

Angrier By The Minute

Tony was becoming angrier by the minute after hearing the “fingertip test” story. He’d seen other students in Demetra’s class wearing similar outfits to her when he dropped her off at school that morning. Why was she the only one singled out? Tony probably wouldn’t have been as mad if Demetra wasn’t the only student who had gotten in trouble for a dress code violation.

If there is a dress code then it should be enforced for every student at school. This furthered his suspicions that Demetra was just being unfairly singled out for some reason.

The Truth Finally Comes Out

After much back and forth between Tony and the administrator, the administrator eventually confessed to the real reason Demetra was singled out. The administrator confirmed that the reason Demetra was singled out was because of the boys in her class. It had nothing to do with the fingertip test or the dress code in question.

In an attempt to process what the administrator had just said, Tony asked her to repeat herself. Tony was shocked at the new revelation. He couldn’t believe his ears. He didn’t want to believe this but it was the truth.

Regret Set In

The administrator immediately regretted saying what she had said. However, she knew it was much too late. Tony finally knew the truth and he was not going to take it lightly. The problem was not that Demetra was dressed immodestly, but that she was seen as a distraction to the boys in her class.

Demetra was getting in trouble for what other students were thinking about her. She should not be getting into trouble, they should be the ones being punished for being distracted. Demetra could not control how other people were going to react to her.

He Couldn’t Believe His Ears

As he sat across the table from the school principal, Tony couldn’t believe what he was hearing. The teacher and the principal had singled Demetra out and now he understood why. Demetra was being singled out through no fault of her own.

Had he not pried and demanded a reason, Demetra would have had to either changed her outfit or be sent home early and not get to go to classes for the day. Tony had had enough and was ready to fight this.

Using His Resources

At this point, Demetra was very upset and started to cry. Seeing his daughter so upset with tears in her eyes made Tony realize even more that he couldn’t let this go. What the administrator was saying about his little girl was completely unacceptable.

The situation as a whole was not okay and the school needed to learn a lesson. Tony decided that needed to use his resources to rectify the situation.

One Last Choice

The administrator was fed up. She felt that this was taking up way to much time out of her day. A simple dress code violation had turned into something much bigger. To end the conversation, the administrator gave them one last choice: either Demetra covered up her legs with leggings or she wouldn’t be allowed to go back to class.

This was completely unfair to Tony. He didn’t feel like he was being compromised with or taken seriously by the administrator. Tony was about to show them exactly what he thought about this.

Unfair Discrimination

Demetra pointed out that the school dress code wasn’t enforced on the boys and this was discriminatory towards girls. There is a no-hats-in-class rule but the boys wear hats in a class all the time and nothing is done about it. This tends to be an issue at schools across the country. Girls tend to be disproportionately affected by the dress code rules.

Even in the rare instances when boys do get punished for dress code violations, their punishment tends to be much more lenient. Overall, the girl students tend to be subjected to much harsher punishment at school.

Unaccommodating Rules

How could the school expect girls to wear leggings on such a hot day? Their rules should be more accommodating. Shorter and lighter clothing would help the pupils to be comfortable in the heat. But because of boys, Demetra had to suffer.

This was not fair to Demetra or the other girls at school. The rules were unfairly enforced and something had to be done to ensure that this could not go on anymore.

Many Pupils Agreed

Tony decided to ask Demetra’s friends what they thought about the dress code rules. Like many girls across the country, they all felt that it was unfair. The system was flawed and Demetra’s case just highlighted exactly was wrong with it. The girls had to be uncomfortable in summer because the boys couldn’t control themselves.

This was not the girls’ fault and they should not be punished for what the boys do. Unfortunately, the girls did not know what to do to make the system change. Luckily, they had Tony on their side.

Time To Involve The Media

Involving the media was Tony’s next course of action. He was angry. As a result, he wanted the world to know how unfair the school’s dress code was. In addition to that, he wanted everyone to know how the school had humiliated his teenaged daughter. Tony appeared on Today and other local news channels.

This opened up the dress code for discussion amongst adults in the community. It was no longer a conversation where the school told the students what to do and they followed. Now, other adults could give their input.

Parents’ Discretion

The media asked Tony what he proposes would be a solution to the current dress code situation. He stated that it should be solely up to the parents to decide whether what their child wears is appropriate or not. No respectable parent would purposely send their kid to school in something inappropriate.

A parent can make the judgment whether or not it is an acceptable outfit. Parents can also more thoroughly assess how the clothes fit on their child’s particular body type to ensure the clothes are comfortable as well.

A Proposal

Tony proposed some changes be made to the school’s dress code. One being that underwear shouldn’t be visible. In addition to that, no midriffs should be showing and no shirts with spaghetti straps should be allowed.

This is similar to what many middle schools in Southern California already have in effect for their dress code. So naturally, many people found these parts to be generally agreeable. But he was just scratching the surface of a bigger issue.

Uncovering A Bigger Issue

Most people supported Tony in this endeavor but the issue of objectification and sexualization of young girls and body image was being uncovered. Some people believed that if teens were allowed to wear what they wanted it would create chaos in the school system. This is an often repeated issue when the dress code is brought up.

However, Tony’s plan still involved having adults as part of the process. The goal was for parents to verify whether the outfit was appropriate or not. Even still, the school still had a dress code, it was just not as strict.

Addressing The Accusations

The school responded to Tony’s accusations of the unfair dress code by stating that the dress code was meant to establish guidelines. The school aimed to have “reasonable decorum” among their students. The school administration believed that there had to be some sort of rules regarding the dress code.

Just like some parents, the administration believed there would be chaos without some ground rules and expectations set forth for the students. Students need some level of structure so they know what to do. It seems this was not the only case involving unfair school dress code rules.

Many Other Offenders

Tony was trying to stay calm but it was becoming very difficult. He commented that he had seen many other students in the parking lot who were not following the rules either. So why were the girls the only ones picked on? The girls should not be subject to an unequally enforced dress code.

That was discrimination based on gender and not only completely unfair but outright illegal in the United States. Schools are not allowed to discriminate based on a multitude of characteristics but one of the main characteristics is gender.

Fingertip Test Demonstration

To return to the topic of the fingertip test, the pupil must place her arms on her sides and if her pants are above her fingertips then it’s too short. So Demetra performed the fingertip test and hers was just barely above. This meant that the outfit was technically too short according to the dress code.

Tony was not going to accept this. Her fingertips were still only a little below the fabric so it should not be a big deal. More importantly, the shorts were still fully covering Demetra so the fingertip test should be irrelevant.

The Battle Is Not Over

When Demetra’s dad, Tony finally arrived at the school he handed her the new outfit. So Demetra went to the restroom to change her clothes. Once she’d changed into the new outfit, she went back to the office where her dad and the administrator were waiting for her. She and her dad though everything was alright at this point.

Unfortunately, the administrator took one look at her new outfit and decided that it was still inappropriate. At this stage, Tony was quite agitated. He had driven all the way to the school for nothing.

Was He Overreacting?

Demetra felt so embarrassed that day when she was singled out in class. In general, female students are much more likely to get dress code violations than their male counterparts. So realistically, she wasn’t the first girl to ever be reprimanded in front of the class but it was mortifying nonetheless. She couldn’t understand what all the fuss was about. The blue romper was by far not revealing. It was not uncommon to see similar outfits worn by girls of a similar age to Demetra.

So why was Demetra’s outfit a problem all of a sudden? Demetra would have had to know the dress code seeing as she had been attending the school for a while at this point. It’s unlikely that Demetra would purposely ignore the dress code and wear something that would get her embarrassed in front of the class when the teacher saw the outfit.

The Supposed Inappropriate Outfit

She had no idea that wearing that blue romper would get her into trouble. The blur romper had short sleeves but the top portion was not lowcut. The only part of her upper body that was revealed was her arms. The lower portion was no different. Although the romper had shorts on the bottom, they were not so short as to be revealing. There was nothing wrong with her outfit as far as she was concerned.

As mentioned before, her protective dad Tony had dropped her off that morning and he didn’t think so either. There is no way an inappropriate outfit would have gotten past the radar of Tony Alarcon. Despite all of this, the school still believed the outfit to be inappropriate for the classroom. Naturally, there was no way for Demetra or her father to know how the situation would progress from here.

Up Next, A Girl Just Experienced the Most Unforgettable Prom of Her Life… Because She Was Kicked Out

Every teen is surely looking forward to the most ecstatic and unforgettable day of their high school career. The day of their high school prom. No one could argue we haven’t all dreamt of a fun and magical night full of dancing, laughing and colorful dresses. Indeed, our teenage years are our most missed stage of life.

A high school couple from Richmond, Virginia were both excited and nervous about their prom. They spent days preparing for the big event but never expected the disaster that happened. Indeed, prom night turned out to be the most unforgettable night, this due to the fact they never imagined they would be kicked out from their own prom.

Sweetest Couple

It’s very typical for young teenagers in a relationship to believe they are in love. High school lovers always look forward to seeing each other every day at school and going out on the next date but still, there’s one occasion not to be missed and that’s Prom.

These high school seniors from Richmond, Virginia were looking for the most memorable night of their high school life. Clare Ettinger and her boyfriend, James Thompson were one of the many couples who hoped their high school prom would give them an unforgettable experience they would never forget. And on that part, they succeed.

The Night Everyone Had Been Waiting For

The couple knew that aside from being each other’s date to prom, it was also their last chance to mingle with their friends. Their prom also acts as a reminder that they are seniors and will soon be leaving school and starting their new paths in life. The couple dreamed the night would be wonderful just like in the movies.

After preparing for weeks, the night of the prom arrived. Everyone was extremely excited. The girls put in hours of time choosing the perfect dress, heels, and shoes. The guys also exerted effort in finding the right suit and tie. It may be the last party they would experience with their friends and they wanted everything to be full of glamour and fun. The couple never thought it possible to experience something so unfortunate on this important day.

Looking Forward to the Party

Every high schooler in Clare and James’ school were totally ecstatic as they prepared for the special day, especially when they were informed that their prom was themed “Twilight in Paris”. Just hearing the theme made them shake with excitement. They pictured the perfect magical and romantic night.

Each person from every corner of their school was buzzing about the upcoming prom. The girls couldn’t stop thinking about their makeup, heels, dresses, and of course, the magical night awaiting them.

Almost Lost Hope

Clare went through every shop in every alley in her town just to find the perfect dress. There were plenty of stores to look through and although she wasn’t successful the first time, she didn’t give up easily. She knew that somewhere out there, her dress was just waiting for her.

After visiting the sixth store, Clare finally felt exhausted. She didn’t want to give up but her feet were starting to ache. As she started to walk home, she couldn’t help but stop in her tracks, something amazing caught her attention. Clare was in awe when she finally found what she’d been looking for.

Exactly Her Type

Prom is one of the most important nights in every high school teen’s life and like any other girl, Clare did not hesitate to put a lot of time and effort in preparing for this incredible night. With everything that needs to be ready, no one could argue that the dress is the most important. Luckily, after almost giving up, Clare found hers.

Clare had to search through plenty of stores and do a lot of walking before finding her perfect dress. The silver dress she stumbled upon was glittering beautifully and all she could hope for was it fitting perfectly. She thought no other dress could be more perfect for the occasion than this one. Unfortunately, she had a problem.

The Meticulous Test

Clare fell in love with the silver sparkly dress the moment she saw it on the rack. After trying it on she was completely left in awe. It was a perfect fit for her! However, she had one tiny problem… there was a meticulous test the dress needed to pass.

According to the prom’s dress code, the girl’s dresses need to go at least farther than their fingertips. Fingertip tests were a common test on events like these especially on proms to avoid the girls from showing too much skin.

Testing…

It was a very frustrating situation for Clare, she really wanted the dress and if it would fail the test, she would have to find another one. Wearing the dress, she relaxed her shoulders and let it hang on her sides and slowly looked at the mirror to see if it went further than her fingertips.

Clare felt really lucky as she saw that the dress passed just at the end of her fingertips. Her dress was safe! It was final, the glittery dress was hers and the one she would wear to prom. However, she never expected choosing this dress would create such a commotion.

Checking Out Her Friends

Aside from her boyfriend, James, Clare was also busy sharing every bit of prom preparations with her friends. She used her social media accounts to upload some photos of herself before the prom. She said on her post that she was “channeling [her] inner Marilyn Monroe” and everyone should look forward to it.

She did her makeup and her hair to perfectly match her glittery dress. She knew that night would be wonderful and wanted to make sure nothing could ruin it, so she did the fingertip test once again.

Last Fingertip Test

Prom was very important to every high school girl and especially to Clare. She wanted everything to be how she dreamed and didn’t want to take any chances, so she did the fingertip test for the last time.

Clare wore her heels and the stunning glittery silver dress. She relaxed her shoulders again and got in front of the mirror. She knew that wearing the heels would make her legs look longer but it still passed her fingertips, and that was the most important thing.

The Prom Night

With her full makeup and her beautifully styled blonde hair, Clare looked ready for prom. After getting her silver glittery dress and her beautiful pair of heels, she put on the last thing that would complete her look. She applied a bright red lipstick on her lips.

Clare was more than satisfied with her complete look for prom. This one-night event would never come again in her life and she was also hoping that the night would be perfect for her, her boyfriend, and all of their friends. This was the last time they would all be together and she promised to make the most out of this event.

Never Saw This Coming

Clare was totally confident in her dress. She was excited to flaunt it for everyone to see. She also knew that her boyfriend was looking forward to this day and seeing how beautiful she looked which made her more excited. Ever since she purchased the dress, she only became more excited and thrilled for the special night.

Clare knew that her dress would stand out, however, she never thought her beautiful dress would create so much chaos and stress.

Stopped at the Front Doors

Clare was greeted by her boyfriend and friends. They were all laughing and praising each other’s beautiful dresses. However, before they even entered the venue, they heard a volunteer reminding them that their prom dresses should be at least “fingertip length”.

Clare somehow knew that someone would notice her dress, especially because she was tall. She tried to explain her side. It was her long legs that made her dress look shorter but the volunteers, along with Mrs. Duncan didn’t care to listen. Clare knew that this was a sign of trouble but she wasn’t about to back down.

Testing Again

Mrs. Duncan seemed to have a strong personality, one that Clare could match. She was confident that there was nothing wrong with her dress while Mrs. Duncan strongly believed the opposite. Thus, Clare proved it in front of everyone again.

Just like what she did back home before going to the party and even before purchasing the dress, she relaxed her shoulders and just let her fingertips hang on her sides. And once again, she proved that she was right. And thus, she was let inside.

Eyes All Over

It was very visible on Mrs. Duncan’s face that she ultimately did not agree with the result of the fingertip test. Before Clare was let inside the venue, Mrs. Duncan pointed out that it was a close call for her dress and thus, left a reminder to Clare that the volunteers would keep a close watch on her all throughout the night.

However, no matter how much hate she received from Mrs. Duncan, Clare already promised herself that she would do nothing except enjoy every single moment of the night. Although the volunteer’s words rang in her mind countless times, “the dress stays pulled down,” “that is too short,” she still danced and laughed her heart out.

Noticing It

As they entered the halls to the venue, Clare found it ridiculous that she was actually stopped by front doors when there were more girls who were wearing shorter dresses than hers. However, since all she wanted was to have a good time, she shrugged it all off.

Clare went to the dance floor with James and their friends. They were laughing and dancing but as she able to scan the whole room, she was really bothered by how the prom chaperone told her that her dress was short when there were girls on the dance floor with dresses shorter than hers. Aside from seeing a lot of girls with shorter dresses, she noticed something very strange and disturbing.

More Than Disturbing

Clare asked her friends if they have noticed and felt what she had been feeling since they had entered the venue. Her friends and even her boyfriend agreed with her. The prom had an awkward atmosphere. They thought that it was mainly because there were a lot of chaperones present at every corner.

Clare could not believe that the chaperones, including adult men, also invaded the dance floors. They were stationed all around, from the bottom of the room up to the balcony. Clare thought that they were like preys being watched by their captors. It felt like, one wrong move and something would happen.

Too Much

From the beginning of the prom, Clare had undergone a lot of drama but now she was really concerned by the unnecessary number of chaperones watching her and their friends. Some of the chaperones were male adults and some were even parents.

Clare couldn’t stop herself from expressing that she felt “violated” by how many adult males there were looking at her and her friends. She knew that chaperones were necessary for events like this to make sure that everyone was safe and following the rules, but she felt the number of chaperones was ridiculous.

Mrs. Duncan Is Back

Clare was starting to worry about the odd number of chaperones. However, that thought faded when she suddenly saw Mrs. Duncan approaching her again. She was brought to a corner by the prom volunteer and confronted again.

Mrs. Duncan told her that her short dress was making some of the male chaperones very uncomfortable since she was dancing provocatively too. She was told the chaperones complained about her dancing because it could be the root of “impure thoughts”. She couldn’t believe her ears.

Who’s Really at Fault?

Clare thought it was a ridiculous approach to the situation. Clare clearly stated to Mrs. Duncan and all other volunteers that it was not her fault these male adult chaperones felt uncomfortable around her. She was completely fine on how she was dress and it was not her problem that people couldn’t control their thoughts.

Clare was already concerned about the large number of male adults at her prom but actually admitting that they were sexualizing a young student like her was awful. Clare strongly believed that a young teen like herself, who did nothing but enjoy her prom was not at fault if some of the chaperones felt, “other things”.

It Was Not Only Her

Some of the girls present at the event did not deny the fact that they also get uncomfortable about the number of male adults present at their prom. Who wouldn’t feel weird when men were lined up in the halls watching your every single move?

However, Clare felt the situation was unfair. Since she was considered a troublemaker from the beginning of the event, it felt everything was blamed on her. She started to question herself, why did it seem that she was being used as a scapegoat?

Fighting Back

After hearing that she was actually sexualized by the male prom chaperones, Clare felt violated. However, after realizing that she was being used as a scapegoat too, she was furious and was ready to fight back.

She tried to clearly reiterate to Mrs. Duncan that her dress passed the fingertip test. Its length was just right and she never did any inappropriate dances. She was part of the prom and it was only normal for her to have fun. Her boyfriend and her friends even helped her explain the situation hoping that Mrs. Duncan would understand. However, the prom volunteer only shut them down. Anger started to boil up in James and he did not let Mrs Duncan win the situation.

James’ Stand

Seeing that his girlfriend was surely going to be kicked out of the event in no time based on Mrs. Duncan’s statements, James wanted to make a point. If Clare was going to be kicked out of the event, she deserved a refund.

Besides that, he also demanded a refund for him and their friends because they were all leaving with Clare. Clare was really touched by her boyfriend’s statement and very proud too, it was a go wild or go home decision for them. After all, they didn’t get dressed up for nothing.

Never Backing Down

Both parties wouldn’t back down. The argument continued on and on without coming to a resolution. Thus, James spoke for his girlfriend’s side and asked for the attention of the manager and the prom volunteer. The situation was getting really serious and Mrs. Duncan was getting more and more furious.

The prom volunteer didn’t like her authority being questioned and thus, decided to close the issue to call for another witness. Mrs. Duncan called the attention of one of the chaperones who witnessed all the commotion from the very beginning.

The Right One

The two women really caught the attention of many people. Their heated debate caused a big commotion and many people were needed to calm the both of them. They kept on throwing their opinions on one another but instead of solving the problem the issues were just doubling up.

People had to stop the two ladies from being too physical. They tried to calm them down a little. After a little more talk, they were able to straighten things up and come to a conclusion. In the end, one of them was going to end up unhappy and nobody was going to back down.

The Final Decision

No matter how she much her friends and her explained her side, Clare was ultimately escorted out by the security. Of course, her heart was left broken. It was her last chance to spend time with her friends and her special someone and yet, just because of her dress, she went through an argument and ended up getting kicked out.

However, she states why she thinks she got so much attention. They were just in 8th grade and unlike other girls her age, she looked like a full-grown woman, the main reason she was a ‘Mrs. Duncan favorite’. With her dress, she undoubtedly looked hot and the chaperones were definitely uncomfortable with her.

Looking at the Other Side of the Story

As she was escorted outside, Clare couldn’t stop herself from crying. She did not have anyone by her side as her boyfriend and friends were left inside. She wanted someone to comfort her. she asked one of the people who witnessed the commotion since the beginning.

Clare asked the guard on duty if he felt that kicking her out of her own prom was right and just. She did not fail on getting an ally. The guard said that he also thought that it was not fair that she was kicked and left outside all alone. However, it was not his decision to make. Clare became even more furious when it was only her who got a refund when they promised her friends one too.

Exposing the Truth

It was not the very first time that this kind of situation happened in a prom. Several years ago, there was also a student who received an unfair treatment just like Clare. However, Clare wanted to be treated fairly and she knew how to get the word out.

With the age of social media, Clare wanted to prove that she could use it to get the treatment she deserved. She might still be a student but she knows her rights. Clare shared everything that happened at prom on her social media.

War: ON

Of course, Clare didn’t fail to share her story and get it out to the public. Social media is one of the most powerful tools today and the teen successfully used it to make her voice heard. As soon as she posted her unforgettable prom experience, many people showed their support for her.

Many people visited and left comments on Richmond Homeschool Prom’s Facebook Page. They shared their sympathy in Clare’s case and the page was quickly filled with supportive comments. In the end, the administrators had no choice but to delete the whole page itself.

Hot Topic

People didn’t only support Clare, they felt sad and aggravated with what had happened to her. It also raised a lot of topics that people found worth discussing. The public pointed out how young girls like Clare dress nowadays, whether it’s right or wrong and if the way she was treated was okay.

The public has also raised concern whether the case should be brought to court to see who is really in the wrong. Throughout all this, Clare did nothing but state how much she felt “ostracized”, “sexualized” and “violated” during her prom. However, Mrs. Duncan also did not hold back on getting her side of the story in on social media.

Mrs. Duncan and Her Story

From the very first time Mrs. Duncan laid her scrutinizing eyes on Clare, she already proved how much she would not tolerate the student’s attitude. Although Clare was able to point out that her dress passed the fingertip test, she still firmly stood on what she believed in.

She explained that although Clare’s dress may have been at the right length when she arrived, it kept rising when she was on the dance floor. Mrs. Duncan also noted that the girl’s dress ended up just below her butt and it was she who saw everything. She also explained that with around 500 students, they need enough chaperones to make sure that everything is going smoothly.

Why Only Me?

However, no matter what the explanation of Mrs Duncan might state, Clare would never forget how unfairly she was treated. When she was kicked out of the prom, her friends told her that there were a number of students who were dancing inappropriately and even making out. Yet, none of them suffered the same fate as her.

On the other hand, another student who attended the prom named, Collie Hobbs was brave enough to give his own opinion about the big ruckus. He admitted that he saw Clare getting intimate with her boyfriend, but he wished that the two parties could act accordingly and the issue could have easily been resolved.

Standing on What She Believed In

There were a lot of reports and versions of the story which came out on social media and other news sites, some in favor of Clare and some in favor of Mrs. Duncan. However, no matter what other people may say, Clare’s view of what had happened would never change.

She clearly remembered that she was told to leave the prom because her dress was too short and the male chaperones found themselves uncomfortable with her way of dancing. It was proof that she had been treated unfairly as all of their attention was only directed at her.

Not Her Problem

With her tall height, Clare pointed out that it was also very hard for her to find a nice dress that would fit and pass meticulous fingertip test. She openly stated she felt that people were shaming her because of her mature body. She was really depressed that she did doing nothing wrong and yet because of her physical appearance, she was judged like this.

Although feeling a little sad about the body-shaming she had received, Clare would never forget the fact that some of the adult chaperones admitted that they were “lusting over her” and directed at her all the fault. “And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem,” Clare said.

Missing in Action

The moment she shared everything on social media and it got the attention of the public, various online news sites and even television shows reached out to Clare for an interview. However, it seemed that the most important people who needed to communicate with her suddenly went MIA.

The Richmond Homeschool Prom officials and even chaperones did not even try to contact her to make amends with her and explain their side. Her friends were really disappointed that even their refunds were forgotten by the prom officials after kicking her out on her last prom.

Setting an Example

After everything she had been through on her supposed to be ‘glamorous and fun prom night’, Clare wants to set an example for her fellow young students. She knows this can and will inevitably happen again at another event and she wants young girls to be strong on their beliefs.

She understands that dress codes will always be a vital part of proms and school events but Clare wishes that the adults behind these rules were more understanding towards the students. This issue was a great reminder for everyone that a situation can easily get complicated if it involves teen sexuality.

Deciding Who’s Right and Wrong

This issue caught the eye of many because of its controversial topic. However, no matter who you choose to side with, endless questions and debates will surely arise. For teenage girls, is it really their fault if guys think of something inappropriate because of the way they’re dressed?

For the adults and the guys, do they really know why dress codes are used? Can they do something more effective to resolve this issue? We could only hope that after a row of discussion everybody would come with a solution effective for both sides.

Trending

Clare, James, and Mrs. Duncan’s story reached every corner of the world through the internet, they were even featured on television and news sites. With this story getting viral, we could only conclude one thing, with technology, everything is surely fast-changing, however, rules will always stay as rules.

As a responsible citizen, it is important for us to follow codes of conduct but also, know the times when we are being taken advantage of and need to shake those rules to create change. Also, this story was a great reminder for every woman that we should fight for our rights especially when it involves our sexuality. We are all equal and deserve the utmost respect.


When the administrator of his daughter’s school let slip the real reason why they had singled her out, he stood with his mouth open in utter disbelief.

After a few seconds of listening to them berate his daughter, he decided that enough was enough. He rolled up his sleeves and readied himself for a fight. 

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